Mainely Good News

Wow!  Two months since my last post.
I'lll start right off by ending all the suspense and let you know I did make it to Maine.
After leaving Washington it was a couple of long, hot days driving across the western US.  Who was the idiot that thought it would be a good idea to drive cross-country in August?  Call it lesson number one.  I didn't see any 100+ temperatures so I probably shouldn't complain, but there were an awful lot of high nineties.  With the trailer overloaded I was pushing my luck climbing the mountain passes with the AC on, but the truck handled it fine.  Less than three days later I was in Minnesota and reunited with Nicole and Madeline, and got to spend a couple nice days at my moms resting and visiting.  We ate well, visited the playground, and sorted through tons of toys to pick some new ones for Madeline.  My mom had saved a good portion of the toys from my brother and myself and had added a bunch of new ones for Madeline, so we had a lot to choose from, and very little room available in the trailer.

Nicole and Madeline got a welcome
 home sign in the airport, I got a
three hour traffic jam just trying
to get across the border

After a few days, Nicole and Madeline headed to the airport for their flight to Maine, and I was back on the road.  Three more long, uneventful days and I was in Maine and picking up Nicole and Madeline for the last leg of the trip.  The girls got to spend a couple days visiting with Nicole's family before I got there, and then it was just a quick few hours up the coast to our old stomping grounds and new home.
Lesson number two on this journey is don't move to a major tourist destination during peak tourist season without prearranging lodging.  We had our choice of cheap and sketchy or very expensive, nothing else.  We chose cheap for the first couple nights until we did some exploring.  Seems our long-term housing options were either cheap and sketchy, very expensive, or not available for several weeks or longer.  Most housing in the area is either motels by the night or houses by the week.  Monthly options don't open up until October unless you happen to find something in the off season that is year-round.
We looked at a bunch of places, ruled out the sketchy ones, dreamed of the expensive ones, and eventually found a couple options starting in September.  That left us several weeks to wait, with my new job starting the week after we arrived.  We found an exceptionally small, very expensive studio condo right downtown Bar Harbor and anxiously waited for the end of the month.  The good thing was it was a reasonable drive to work for me and an easy walk to playgrounds, parks and pools for Nicole and Madeline.  We reacquainted ourselves with the island and finally decided on a winter rental in Southwest Harbor.

Two tuckered out
two year olds

Madeline's cousin Colleen is just over a week older than Madeline so it turned out we were just in time for a birthday party too.  We headed back down the coast a couple hours to visit Nicole's brother for the party, and we all had fun eating, playing and trying to wear out a couple of two year olds.
Back in Bar Harbor I started work and didn't exactly ease into it.  Never being all that happy about working in the first place, I tried to go in with a positive attitude and an open mind.  The rush to get me working came from a 48' sailboat they were just finishing up and all the quirks that come from untested systems and new technology.  Trying to troubleshoot systems you didn't install is always challenging, and adding to that the fact that the installers had never worked with some of this equipment meant it was a busy and sometimes frantic first few weeks at work.  The woodwork and craftsmanship on these boats is second to none, so I struggled to make sure all the other systems were up to that same high standard.  My regular work week is four ten hour days so I have three day weekends to recover and it seems like the schedule will work out well for spending time with Madeline as well.
September came and we moved into our new place.  We are in a two bedroom house tucked in the woods just outside town, so it makes for a good environment for Madeline to play outside, and it's a reasonable commute for my job and for us to get groceries and such.

A little help blowing
out the candles

The beginning of September also means a birthday for a certain little someone.  We did a two-part birthday since her actual birthday on the second fell on a weekday.  Monday was a holiday and I was home for the day, so we went to the playground, played with toys a lot, opened some presents, and had cake and ice cream after dinner.  On Madeline's actual birthday I had to work, but when I got home there was time for more presents and more cake and ice cream before bed, and luckily family sent enough presents that we could spread them out over two days.

The start of fall foliage

Back to the house we are living in, being a two bedroom this means we have room for guests.  If you need some coerceion, within a fifteen minute drive from the house we have hiking, biking, rock climbing, sea kayaking, sailing, lobster eating….. just keep in mind we also have winter so the timing will have to work if you come for a specific activity, but the cross country skiing is pretty nice here too.
Speaking of the seasons, if you are looking for a last minute excuse for a little travel, fall colors here will be peaking in the next week or so, and these are world renown "doesn't get any better than here" fall colors.  Let us know if you want to visit, at any time, and we can give you some tips to get here, and it will give us time to clear all the stuff out of the spare room.

On The Road Again

Hopefully after reading the title of this post you have that song stuck in your head for the day, I'm pretty sure I will.
I've reached the point in preparing for a move where I no longer care about order.  More than twelve hours ago when I picked up our Uhaul trailer I had high hopes of neatly packing all of our worldly belongings into the trailer, looking at a still half empty but impeccably neat trailer with a sense of pride, and then relaxing for the rest of the day sipping a cocktail and watching a movie.
Instead, it is creeping up on midnight, the trailer is jammed full in a chaotic mess, there is still a pile of junk on the floor in our prep area, and I'm exhausted.
Regardless, tomorrow morning I will head out on the highway (see, now that song can be stuck in your head for a while) and make my way east.  I should be in MN on Monday if all goes well, and plan to spend a couple days there before continuing on to Maine.  I was going to say that Nicole is taking the easy way out and flying, but long flights with a two year old are potentially much worse than driving an overloaded trailer across the country.
Anybody that wanted to see us in WA before we left, you are out of luck.  If you want to see us in MN, we will be there for a couple days early next week and would be happy to visit if you contact us soon enough.  If you want to visit us in Maine, we will let folks know once we are there and settled.  In the mean time, I'm hoping I got the little "Where are we now" widget in the right hand column of this page working so it will show my location as I drive across the country.  About the same excitement level as watching paint dry, but it's the best I can do right now.

Finally

Morris M-52

After months of uncertainty, we finally have a plan.  I have accepted a new job and we will be moving back to Maine.  I will be working for Morris Yachts in charge of their mechanical and electrical divisions in new boat production.  This means I will continue working in the marine industry and we will be back in the Bar Harbor area where Nicole and I met.
It also means that after months of freeloading off our friends we will soon be leaving the Seattle area.  If you haven't had a chance to visit us here you will have to do it soon.  The information/interview/negotiation process for my new job has been very slow, but now that the decision is made it will all be fast forward to get us out there and settled.  That means our time in WA is very limited and the opportunity for visiting on the trip east will be unlikely, although we will be in MN for several days to gather our stored possessions.  I will be driving our vehicle out and Nicole and Madeline will fly to meet me to speed the trip up even further.  We haven't yet secured housing but hopefully once settled we will have room for guests (hint, hint).

Risky Business

Two words: Live boldly

Every single time you are offered a choice that involves greater risk, take it. You will lose on many of them but when you add them up at the end of your life you’ll be glad you did.



This was posted by one of my Facebook friends recently, and it's been nagging at me ever since.  The past ten years of my life would make one think I lived by this creed, but I don't purposely try to live my life this way.  In 2005 when my comfortable, complaisant life was turned on its' ear, I was pretty much forced into a risky existence, at least in the short term.  I probably could have found a way to continue that lethargic lifestyle, but I had already taken steps to break free, and the timing worked out to speed that change along.  I'm smart enough, and still cautious enough, to avoid blind risk, but calculated risks seem to be working for me.  During these past ten years, I've been unlucky enough to have several harsh wake-up calls, and lucky enough to recognize them and make life changes for the better.
But my life isn't the carefree, reckless ride I was on in my twenties.  I'm now a father and take that responsibility very seriously, even though I probably see it differently than many others.  I am also a husband, and although Nicole is very capable I feel a responsibility to watch out for her best interests as well.

Fast forward to today.

I have a job offer in hand.  A good job, interesting work, substantial pay that would support my family comfortably, with benefits, at a location high on our top ten places to live.  And yet I hesitate.
Before this opportunity came along I had started to work through ways to make a living outside the "normal" ways.  Ways that would keep us together as a family, provide us interest and excitement, challenge us, and yet provide the income and means to live comfortably.  Maybe not right away, but in time.

And there's the rub:
Taking a risk that may take a long time to pay off, or may never pay off, when you are risking not just yourself but others as well.
I firmly believe I can find a different path that will mean a better life for myself and my family, but we never really know if our choices work out until we are looking back.

Societal norms exist for a reason, they outline a path that works for the majority of the population.  Go to school, get a job, buy a house, get married, raise a family.  The American Dream.  It isn't just a concept, it describes almost everyone we meet.  From a very early age and on into adulthood we are told that this is our goal.  And it isn't a bad thing by any means, it's just not MY thing.  My dreams take a different path from the American Dream.  My dreams push me in a certain direction, a risky direction, but right this minute there are opportunities for dream fulfillment staring me in the face, and it's hard to turn my back on that.

I can take the "responsible" path and those other opportunities, those dreams, may be waiting in the future, much more easily obtainable because of the position I will be in then.  It's possible there may be other opportunities in the future that far exceed the ones available today.  Or the opportunities may be gone, and that path closed for whatever reason.

This written rambling probably makes little sense to the people reading it.  You'd have to have paid a lot of attention to my previous posts, and/or know a lot about the ideas kicking around in my head to understand all this.  I guess I'm writing it more to organize my thoughts than to be read by others, but hopefully folks can take something away.  While writing, I have already started to change my way of thinking, seeing new options.

I've always said I'm in an enviable position when I'm making decisions between several great options, but I've never thought that made the decisions any easier.  Why not go one step further, and get rid of the decisions, and instead of this or that, choose both.  The safe road and the risky venture, at the same time.  Can't have your cake and eat it too?  We'll see.

Goodbye Friend

The hardest decisions I've had to make in my life have all involved pets.  Lately we've been struggling over what to do with our cat Hope, and it was time to make a decision so things could move forward with the other aspects of our life.  Hope was never going to win "cat of the year" in anyones eyes, she just wasn't cat-like enough.  As far as showing affection, snuggling, being playful or fun, what little she did supply was almost always reserved for me alone.

Regardless, she shared almost all of the past four years of our adventurous, tumultuous, and many times ridiculous life.
People that have pets and love them know how hard it would be to give them up, and people with kids and pets know how heartbreaking it is if the two can not easily coexist.

Unfortunately Hope continued to be borderline hostile towards Madeline and showed no signs of improving, and keeping the two of them separated meant Hope was not getting the attention she needed.  The best option we could find was to give her up for adoption and count on her next owners supplying her with a better environment and the attention she needs.

I am flooded with emotions and none of them are good.  My heart breaks once again and there is nothing that can help but time, and right now that moves far too slowly.
Goodbye my friend and I truly wish you the best.

Recent News

For Sale, For Sail, Fore Sail

As you can see from the lapse in posting, we have been a bit busy lately.  I started working on the boat in mid-March to clean things up, paint some things, and overall just make it look pretty for potential buyers.
Yes, we did make the decision to sell the boat.  It's been somewhat painful at times, giving up (or at least postponing) some of the dreams that went along with our go anywhere home.  We could probably figure out a way to make it work, cruising with the three of us in our current boat.  Many have gone before us, in boats that were smaller and less sturdy, with more kids and pets, to all corners of the oceans.  Financially we are not rich, we have no steady income, (no income at all for quite a while now) but seem to make it work with what we have and could continue to do so.  It just came down to the fact that we didn't really want to try, at least not now.  So, the boat is on the market and we can just hope it sells quickly before we change our minds, again.
So back to what we have been up to, because mid-March was almost two months ago.  I'm picky, and wanted things on the boat right, so I've been working away at a never-ending list of little things.  Add to that the fact that the boat is in Everett and we are staying with friends in Maple Valley, it means my commute each day is 2 hours on a good day, and up to four or more hours on the bad days.  I hate traffic, so you can imagine how well this has been going.  A lot of the outside work on the boat needed dry weather, so spring in the Pacific Northwest has been doing its part to slow things down as well.

Urgent Care=No Fun

The first week of April, on my birthday in fact, Madeline had an accident on the playground slide that after several visits to area clinics was confirmed as a broken leg.  Nothing makes you feel like "parent of the year" more than an experience like this.  Happily, and quite amazingly to us, she is doing fine.  Three weeks after the accident and I'm having a hard time keeping up with her as she runs around the toy section in the store giggling, yes, running and giggling.  I should probably know from the multitude of Emergency Room visits I shared with my mother as I dashed, smashed and crashed my way through childhood, but I can't believe how resilient kids are, and comparatively what total wusses we adults are.  Needless to say, the trips to urgent care, a trip to Children's Hospital in Seattle, and lots of days of close observation have also added to the slow progress of the boat projects.  All that said, things are wrapping up on the boat.  We are sorting through gear to choose what goes with the boat, what gets sold separately, and what gets saved for the next boat.
Oops, did I say next boat?  We really don't have a clue what we are doing next, but several options that we are kicking around would involve another boat.  If you look back earlier in this post where I mention finances, the fact that I am rapidly approaching my one year anniversary of unemployment means that some other issues need to be worked out before much of anything happens.  If anyone reading this has a bunch of spare cash laying around that they would like to loan out at the current lending rate of 5.5%  you could save us all the fun of dealing with banks and such, but I'm thinking that isn't the most likely scenario.

Our new 4Runner

Speaking of money and selling things, our Roadtrek camper van is also for sale, as was noted in the last blog post I wrote.  We ended up purchasing another Toyota 4Runner very similar to the one we had in Sitka, so we have alternate means of transportation and it's time to say goodbye to the van.  The van turned out to be one of the best investments we have made, giving us basically zero trouble through four months and almost 13,000 miles of travel.  Hopefully someone else will buy it and continue to enjoy all it has to offer.
That should get folks up to date on our news.  We have a very nice sailboat and a cool camper van for sale, (sailboat link here) we have a cat that we would probably pay to get rid of,  (Seriously, if anyone wants a quirky cat please let us know)  and a daughter that we wouldn't give up for anything.  A lot of unknowns for us in our near future, but overall life is pretty good right now.

Roadtrek 190 For Sale

Winchester State Park, Idaho

Now that we have ended our little road trip, I find that I am missing that easy subject material for blog posts.  As I wrack my brain for other interesting things to write about, I guess I can fall back on some "retrospective" posts to fill the time.
I was originally going to write a post about the different places we camped on our trip, but even I found that a bit dull and it was my idea.  Instead I'll turn this into a marketing post.  As soon as I get the ambition to finish removing all our personal belongings from the van we will be putting it up for sale.  With that in mind, I'll do a quick description of the van with a bunch of "you could be here" photos to see if any of our blog readers might be interested in buying it.  I normally wouldn't try to sell a vehicle to friends, but this one worked out so well for us with almost no issues that I feel OK about passing it along.

City of Rocks, Idaho

The van is a 1994 Dodge one ton stretch 19 foot van, also known as the B350 van.
It has the Dodge 5.2 liter Magnum engine (318 for you old school folks) and a four speed automatic transmission.
It has a big fuel tank, I think it's 35 gallon, with a brand new fuel pump.  On our trip we averaged over 14 MPG so the theoretical range is almost 500 miles.
Because the van was originally from Canada, the speedometer and odometer are in kilometers, so mileage has to be converted but comes out to about 150,000 miles on the van currently.

Nine Mile Canyon, Utah

It was converted to a camper by the Canadian company Home and Park under the brand name Roadtrek, who are well known in the camper world as doing very high quality conversions.  This one is the 190 Popular model.
The van has seating with seat belts for three, two captains chairs up front and a third seat behind the passenger.  This worked out well for us to have a belted seat for the car seat for Madeline.

Black Dragon Canyon, Utah

Camper accommodations include a two burner stove with overhead exhaust hood, a convection toaster oven, a three-way 120V/12V/propane fridge, cold water only pressure water to a single sink, electric flush toilet, propane furnace, air conditioner, a table that seats four adults and converts into a 6 foot square bed (almost king size), and lots of cabinets for storage.  There is also a smaller "cocktail" table that mounts up forward, used with the three forward seats when the two captains chairs are swiveled around to face aft.  The third seat can be converted into another single bed, but Madeline is small enough to sleep with us so we never tried it out.  There is 6 foot standing headroom in the center section of the van.

Indian Creek, Utah

There is a fresh water tank that feeds both the sink and toilet, with separate waste water tanks for each.
It has good ventilation, an overhead vent with an exhaust fan, as well as seven opening windows, all with screens to keep the bugs out.  All the windows, including the windshield, have curtains for total privacy while parked.
There is a separate battery to run the water pump and lights in the camper, and I converted most of the lights over to LED for our trip.

City of Rocks, New Mexico

There is an attached power cord to plug the van in to household power, with a standard campground 30amp plug and a 15amp conversion to use a standard house outlet.  The air conditioner and toaster oven require the van to be plugged in, everything else runs off the camper battery.  The battery is recharged by its own charger if the van is plugged in, or by an oversized alternator when the engine is running.
The tires still have good tread, but the sidewalls are dried out and weather-checked from sitting, so the tires should be replaced.  Otherwise I wouldn't hesitate to drive the van across the country again.  It starts right up in any weather and runs and drives fine.
If you are interested or know someone that is, let me know and don't hesitate to ask questions.